I have to admit that I often will put aside the “extras” especially when we are in a particularly busy or stressfull season of life. I ( who used to be an art teacher) am especially embarassed to say that art is often “pre-empted.” I am trying in 2010 to put more emphasis on the fine arts ( especially music and art) in our home school. We are doing some art instruction together, and one of my daughters has just started an online art program which she absolutely adores. Do you regularly include fine arts instruction? Tell me what your home school does.
Doesn’t it seem like those two words should be considered antonyms? I know when I am feeling stressed – I don’t feel very blessed… But sadly my stress is almost always – my fault. I know – you are probably thinking – what in the world?? I have to admit, it isn’t the typical psychotherapeutic terminology. But it really is true. My children – each one – so different yet so wonderful, so intelligent, so special – – but in a heartbeat can turn me inside out. They have demanded so much of us since the moment they arrived and naturally there is going to be a bit of stress involved with that. I think we all know that having children is definitely hard work – I am not talking about that stress. I am talking about the unecessary stress that we put on ourselves through our perceptions or expectations. The perceptions that I had about motherhood, being a wife, running a household, and even homeschooling put alot of stress on myself. I tried for a lot of years to live up to this standard of perfection that I had. All the while making myself miserable. Sound familiar?? Anyone else do this?? Now, I know having goals is a good thing even a necessary thing, but I had to get to the place that I saw those as just desires I had for my life – not the standard of my success or failure. I think having six children made this a necessity – I came face to face with the fact that I could not do it all.
I had to see where I was – stressed out with trying to be all that I “thought” I had to be – and to take a step back. I had to do this in almost every area of my life. I wanted the “Better Homes and Gardens House”, the wonderful husband, the perfect marriage, behaved children, on and on it went. Of course, the most important was my relationship with my family. So, I made myself stop and examine what I was doing – to see how I was teaching them and training them. At the beginning of our homeschooling journey, I had the idea that to be a success I had to teach them like I did in the classroom – spoon feed them EVERY tidbit of information that they would have gotten in a typical classroom. There was just NO WAY with six children, that I could do that and do it successfully. I had to realize that “I” was stressing myself out. Who said I had to do it this way – who said that I would be a success if it all happened just as I “thought” it should? I had to step back and see that not only was I stressed, but so were the children. They did not enjoy our days – they were bored and aggravated. I really was so very blessed – God had given me a wonderful family – but I was the problem!
There were many areas that I had to deal with this in – but after I realized that our “stress” in the homeschool area was a product of my insane desire to be perfect…. 🙂 We were able to reevaluate what we were doing and change some things for the better. We had always used the ABEKA curriculum, and to be honest that is what I had used throughout elementary and high school. I understood it – I had taught it for 10 years – I believed it was the best for our family – but trying to teach it “classroom style” to 6 children was killing me … I had to make some changes. We took what we thought were the most important elements of that curriculum, and then used some other types of curricula for reading – science and even history. But then we added an “online program” to give the children some excitement. I know every family is different, but in our house – if it has to do with the computer – it has to be fun! This simple change – has been amazing! But I didn’t stop there – I had to accept that my house was just not going to “beautiful” every moment (maybe not even clean most of the time). BUT I have 6 children – I am blessed! I guess just applying the question – am I making this stress? Helped me to evaluate my life to see that there are so many beautiful, precious things in life that merit our focus – not our misguided perceptions.
Do you have trouble with “stressing” your self out? Take inventory – look at your life from a different perspective – it might make all the difference.
Welcome to Part 2 of our Standardized Test Miniseries. We hope to explain Grade Equivalent Scores in an easy to understand – English speaking – plain word – way. In my experience as an Elementary School Administrator, the grade equivalent scores seemed to be the ones most misunderstood py parents. Our school was a private school that used the ABEKA curriculum. Typically schools using this and other similar curriculum across all grade levels have higher SAT scores than the average public schools. This is great for the child – they are challenged and seem to achieve by leaps and bounds. However, when the parents receive the score reports and automatically think because their fifth grade child scored a Grade Equivalent of 6.8 they should be advanced to sixth grade – – we have problems.
Having a grade equivalent score above the child’s actual grade is not uncommon. However, the grade equivalent score simply tells us how an average student would do on that fifth grade work. So, if your fifth grader made the score 6.8 (which means sixth grade eighth month) – that tells us that an average sixth grader in the eighth month of school would do just as well as your child did on that FIFTH grade test. The comparison criteria or reference here is the TEST that the child took.
So you see, the “Principal, I think my child needs moved up a grade…” mindset just won’t work – the child has not encountered sixth grade work on his Standardized test – besides the other ramifications of social maturity, etc., etc., must always be considered. Again, the importance of examining many aspects of a child’s achievement are important in assessing the child. Don’t over-rely on one test score.
Ok – there’s something that I have been hiding – well not hiding… exactly…. just not waving around like a flag. Yes, here it is – I have a child in high school… OK now I said it – there it is in print – I think that I have been living in denial about it most of this school term ( you know that whole “my little girl is growing up” AND “I am getting old” issue), but today I spent MOST of the day working on a research paper with her and the denial is definitely gone. – – OK – -maybe not completely gone, because I still want to tell you that she really did “skip” a grade in elementary school. So she isn’t quite as old as a normal high school student. Right… excuses… that’s denial speaking!
Anyway, I really wanted her to get a good handle on writing, and was determined that she be prepared for college and able to write and research. My resolve was a bit shaken today… after several hours of trying to get through bibliography cards, brainstorming, and developing an outline. It seems that just because I know it – doesn’t mean she does -(wow what a revelation!) No, not really – she had a great attitude about it, but I think her propensity toward perfectionism ( of course it’s not my fault) had a lot to do with the time it took us today – well, that and the 100 interuptions from coughing sick little sisters and a brother!
Anyway, I needed some alone time after we finished so I got online and checked out some writing resources. Turns out there are LOADS of good resources for homeschoolers wanting to write better! Woohoo for me! I think I am going to do some more research on these and see if some of them would work for our homeschool next year. In the spirit of internet love – I thought that I would share the really nice ones that I found today… you may want to check into them as well – especially if you have a . . .uhhum. . . high schooler . . .
One Year Adventure Novel – teaches story writing
Notebooking Pages – helps to motivate writing
Check back later this week for another installment of our testing mini-series.
Do your children struggle with creative writing? At our house, there is a constant on- going search for opportunities to motivate creative writing skills. About a year ago, I decided to try blogging as a creative writing MOTIVATOR. We started out by getting each of the two older girls (9,12) a blog on Homeschoolblogger.com. This is a nice starting point for children because there are restrictions in place that protect them. The two older girls responded beyond my wildest dreams. It became more than just an assignment from mom to get them writing – they loved it and it wasn’t long before they were hooked!
I watched this with interest – watching them learn not only writing skills but computer and techonolgy skills as well. It was absolutely thrilling to see them enjoy writing. My stab in the dark to motivate them to write really paid off this time! Whooohooo!
As I watched their eagerness over growing their own personal corner of internet, I began to think of joining them. I took my time though – I am typically not one to commit to something (blogging – among many other things :)) unless I know that I can do it right. I finally joined the blogging “masses” by taking a blog writing course this past fall. I am not sure what I expected from the course when I began, but I have to admit I was shocked at what I learned. In the course of 8 weeks I created a blog that I was proud of and had even built up a small audience. The teacher was wonderful and as students we had a great time encouraging one another and helping each other think through things. They are about to start another Blog Writing Course 101. They even offer a free blog Pre-Course to whet your appetite for blogging!You may want to check it out – you never know just what you might walk away with!
With six children schooling at home, it never fails that I have some “issue” each week that I am researching out. I have spent over 10 years in college and still at times don’t have a single answer. Currently, I am trying to understand why children struggle with math even though they have a good foundation and seemingly fine mental acuity? What is the mystery here?
Well, I didn’t uncover any astounding new revelation, but did realize some important truths. There are so many areas that a child could find pitfalls… for math itself covers so much territory. However, most often when a child has a math struggle, it is not a struggle with everything that has to do with math, but a particular area within the subject of math. Math is also very interconnected with other subjects such as language arts – making for other possibilities for struggle. I have summarized a few of the most basic and common concerns that seem to plague the math sufferer. I have listed some of these below, but please understand that this is in no wise a complete nor comprehensive list. I am just trying to pass on a bit of what I learned this week!
The first thing that I did in my search was to ask myself some questions about my little learner. The following is based on that format and a few webites ( here’s another) that were a valuable help. Does your child fall into any of these categories?
- If your child struggles with:
- recalling basic math facts
- being slow in their recall of math facts
- difficulty remembering previous math experiences
- forgetfulness in the middle of a math problem
Then they may have a deficiency in fundamental concepts such as their addition, subtraction, multiplication, or division family facts. Each of these facts are foundation stones to build the rest of their math experiences on.
2. If your child is:
- easily distracted or unfocused while doing schoolwork
- easily tired during math work
They may have a genuine attention problem.
3. If your child has difficulty:
- grasping abstract concepts
- making connections between related math concepts
They may have a foundational math difficiency. Math skills need to be learned based on concrete (or real life – touch, taste, feel) examples. Children who have difficulties in these areas are often missing this concrete foundation.
4. If your child has trouble understanding math language or math vocabulary then thay may have an underlying language arts need. If a child has difficulty with lanuage arts (reading, comprehension, writing, spelling, etc.), it will be much more difficult for them to understand the rarely used math terms.
5. If your child has trouble with:
- recopying problems correctly
- reading the “hands” on a clock
- ordering the steps on a multiple task problem
- geometric shapes and translations
- anxiety when given a large paper pencil assignment
They may have an underlying spatial difficulty. This will affect how they are able to order steps, and understand objects in space and depth.
Though I haven’t completely formulated my “plan of attack” on this week’s issue, these questions really helped me to see some areas that we do have weaknesses in. I plan on sitting down and making a ordered plan on how we will address and hopefully improve our math skills deficiencies. Don’t despair – though you may have found yourself or your child in some of the descriptions above, you can work through it. Once you pinpoint the area – and know what the underlying problem is – work on that problem. I hope that this may give some of you much needed hope that most math difficulties are able to be overcome!
As a homeschool mother, I am constantly on the lookout for online teaching resources. I love teaching my children using the good old paper and pencil method, but technology is amazing and to get rave reviews from the kids… gotta have it. They would much rather have me incorporate some unbelievable websites into their daily lessons than to write a paper or do a worksheet. So, to keep the natives happy, I frequently try to find websites that correspond to our recent studies. In my search for “awesome” resources I often come across information that really stands out, and others that are interesting… but only ocassionally useful. On my most recent search, I found many websites that were definitely “keepers” and more than a few that ranked in the “interesting… but only ocasionally useful” zone. One of these was a website that told you all of the holdiays for each current date. For example, I learned that December 4th was Wear Brown Shoes Day. Interesting, but not highly useful. Yet, if I was searching for a really odd holiday (for some unknown reason) that sure would be the place to go.
My biggest question is how do we locate and find the really great websites that are truly useful? It is at times a difficult quest to complete. There are several websites that list good websites for educational purposes. This is a great place to start – someone else has already done some of the footwork for you. A few that I like to use are Homeschool.com’s top 100, Good Sites for Kids, Homeschool Top Sites, and even some blogs that review and suggest websites that are useful for homeschoolers. I hope this helps you add “awesome” technology to your homeschool day. Your kids will love you for it!
Did you know that this week is Geography Awareness Week?
Well, I sure didn’t – at least not until I had to search for some geography facts for my children. This prompted me to think about how much (or how little) focus I put on geography education for my children. In my search I saw that there are many statistics out there underlining America’s apparent neglect of geography, which obviously supports the need for a Geography Awareness Week.
Some of the blame for America’s shortcomings in this area is due to the fact that most people think geography consists of naming the continents, countries, oceans, rivers, capitals, etc. But that is just the “tip of theiceberg.” Here is a quote that I love from iGeo:
“Geography turns out to be much more significant than many of us realize. It is much more than knowing facts and figures. Geography is about spatial patterns and processes. It is about frontiers, centers and peripheries, about tourists, terrorists and refugees, about trade of food, clothes, drugs and digital data, about population growth, El Nino, tsunamis and earthquakes. It is the fascinating story of an ever-changing world. Without geography you get lost.”
Wow! from that description it makes me feel like I am not even scratching the surface with geography. Ok – this really got my attention. So, I began to look for some online resources that might help us put some oomph back into our geography time.
First of all, online education literally puts the world at your fingertips. (I know – corny joke…:)) What more could you want when your subject is geography? Here’s a small sample of some of the “treasures” that I found:
- Use Google Earth to visit any place you are currently studying.
- Check out Geography Awareness Week at MyWonderfulWorld.
- Test geography knowledge here.
- Check out this really cool clearinghouse for all things geography.
- Play geography games at Sheppard Software.
- How about an online textbook written just for kids about geography!
- Check out the really cool Rader’s Geography4kids.
We had such a good time looking and “playing” with each of these sites… so take a minute or two or an hour and participate in Geography Awareness Week by spending some time learning about our wonderful world!
Oh, and by the way… in case you were really wondering where Tonga is – Tonga is located east of the Fiji Islands in the South Pacific. (I just learned that in my online travels!)